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here's the deal with my father.....
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Tuesday, 05 December 2006
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Alright, now i'm a little more up to speed as to why the contact......my mom called him back to find out what was up....
18 months ago, he was leaving his cabin in the woods when he swerved to avoid a momma bear and her cubs....he then proceeded to wrap his car around a pine tree. He was airlifted to a hospital, and spent the next month in a coma. Apparently if he wasn't driving a caddy he would have been dead. He is apparently still in rehab, they are still trying to put him back together. His brain was injured, and his body basically destroyed. His doctors now are at the point where he needs to work towards getting his life back, and the doctors wanted to know what he was going to do....so he callled us in hopes that he could talk to us about whether or not he should come back the 8hrs to our town. He wanted to know if there were people still here that would be willing to communicate and whatever....they expect him to be "released" from all the appts and neurologists etc in the spring.....
I was in complete and utter shock when my mom told me this!! So I now have his address and phone number.....i think that i will start by sending a christmas card.
your thoughts now??
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Oh Christy, that is sooo much to think about and digest. I can't even imagine what you are thinking. Those are the kind of events that can really change someone. I think the card is a good start. Maybe this is the wakeup call he needed and maybe he'll now become the father/grandfather he hasn't been able to be all those years. Keep me posted. You and your family will be in my prayers. ((Hugs))
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5-Dec-2006 @ 6:13:52am
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Wow - what a lot to have at this time of the year (as well as the prior years)....I think your right on - small steps. Your immediate family and yourself come first - they can't be hurt as you go through this time.
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5-Dec-2006 @ 6:29:37am
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What an ordeal to go through and come out alive.
I think the Christmas card is a great first step.
Good luck with everything and keep us posted - always good to have a place like this to vent or get opinions when you need them. We are all here for you!
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5-Dec-2006 @ 8:50:29am
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I don't know what to say Christy... that is a lot to take in. Do what you feel is right!
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5-Dec-2006 @ 5:38:30pm
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That is a lot to take in...I would agree to start slow - you really don't have a real relationship with him, and that will take time if he does come back and has changed. Good luck!
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5-Dec-2006 @ 5:53:28pm
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Wow that is a whole lot of emotional baggage to deal with. My favorite saying is "There is no such thing as a coincidence just God's hand in a greater plan". No one can tell you what to do but think on that and pray for guidance. I'll pray for you too. Best wishes and hugs!
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7-Dec-2006 @ 6:26:07am
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Wow Christy! That's a lot to contend with in one conversation! I think your Christmas card is a great first start. One step at a time. Don't rush into something you're not ready for. It's okay to take things slow. Do what's right for you! (((big hugs)))
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7-Dec-2006 @ 10:12:33am
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I think slowly and surely. Start by sending him the Christmas card and letters (even if someone else has to read them to him) then gradually build up the relationship.
I think you should only if you are comfortable with this.
All the best.
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9-Dec-2006 @ 7:03:11am
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